Recognize that grief is emotional, not intellectual. Avoid the trap of asking your child what is wrong, for he or she will automatically say, “Nothing.”
Adults – Go first. Telling the truth about your own grief will make your child feel safe in opening up about his or her own feelings.
Remember that every child is unique and each has a unique relationship to the loss event.
Be patient. Don’t force your child to talk.
Never Say “Don’t feel sad” or “Don’t feel scared.” Sadness and fear, the two most common feelings attached to loss of any kind, are essential to being human.
Helping Children with Loss
For Parents and Guardians to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce,
Pet Loss, Moving, and Other Losses
We use basically the same book as, The Grief Recovery Handbook, but it is geared toward the parent or guardian on how to help your children.
There are many Myths about dealing with sad emotions that confuse children:
Don’t feel bad, have a cookie, you’ll feel better…
Replace the loss
Time heals all wounds
In this program you will learn how to replace these myths with practical guidance for your children.
In the meantime:
Listen with your heart, not your head. Allow all emotions to be expressed, without judgment, criticism, or analysis.