This powerful and dynamic experience is the most sensible, accessible, and authentic plan available for recovery from loss. Each program is facilitated by one of our Certified Grief Recovery Specialists® in either the 8-week group format or the 7-week one-on-one format. We have trained thousands of Specialists all over the country as well as internationally.
The Grief Recovery Handbook – 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition – is used as the text for this program. It is not a traditional support group, not a drop-by program. It is an experiential, action-based program with homework assignments, with a commitment to the 7 or 8 weeks.
The Grief Support Group Workshop provides a safe environment for participants to take the actions of The Grief Recovery Method. You will look at your old beliefs about dealing with loss, what losses have affected your life, and take new actions that will lead you to completion of the pain attached to those losses. As a result, our participants find that they are able to discover and complete what was left emotionally unfinished due to a death, a divorce, or other major loss.
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with loss is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual.
Myths about grief
• Don’t feel bad
• Replace the loss
• Grieve alone
• Time heals all wounds
• Be strong
• Keep busy
Just looking at the myth that time heals creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who have waited ten, twenty, thirty, and forty years, and still didn’t feel better. And they would tell you that not only had time not healed them but it had compounded the pain.
When is it time to start Grief Recovery?
Is it ever too soon to recovery? No! Effective Grief Recovery can begin immediately. We tend to create larger-than-life memory pictures in which we either enshrine or bedevil the person who died. This phenomenon increases with time, making it more difficult to discover the truth within our relationships. It is never too soon to address your grief.
What is the difference between The Grief Recovery Method ® Support Groups and traditional support groups?
Many grief groups provide an environment for you to verbalize the thoughts and feelings you experience following a loss. While there is a benefit to that kind of expression, it is not enough. Talking about how you feel does not complete the unfinished emotional business that is attached to a loss. The Grief Recovery Method Support Group is designed to guide you through a series of actions to not only verbalize your feelings, but to help you complete the pain associated with those feelings. For the safety and success of all participants, commitment and attendance are essential.
People say you have to let go and move on in your life, but they don’t tell you what you need to do to accomplish that. The Grief Recovery Method Support Group, developed and refined over the past 30 years, not only makes that possible, but provides partnerships and guidance to ensure that it happens
Don’t wait any longer. Time alone will not heal your broken heart.
John W. James and Russell Friedman, founders of The Grief Recovery Institute®
and authors of The Grief Recovery Handbook.
What is The Grief Recovery Method®:Grief Support Group ?
How do Grief Recovery Method: Grief Support Groups differ from traditional grief support groups?
• We welcome everyone. Most traditional support groups segregate participants by the type of loss they’ve experienced. In over 30 years we’ve seen no benefit in doing that. Even if two people experienced a similar type of loss they still wouldn’t have the exact same experiences because all relationships are unique. We have found that focusing on the type of loss puts the focus in the wrong place. Grief Recovery works on every type of loss.
• Attendance is required. Traditional grief support groups have no specific end date and participants are allowed to drop in as they please. We encourage participants to make a commitment to each other for the duration of the Grief Recovery Workshop. Attendance and participation build trust and safety, which are essential elements to recovery from grief.
• It’s an action-based program. Although many traditional grief support groups offer a safe environment for a griever to talk about their feelings, talking only provides short-term relief. Talking about your feelings can be beneficial, but it’s not enough. The Grief Recovery: Grief Support Group is designed to guide grievers through a series of actions to complete the pain associated with their feelings.
Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever.
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